What’s a Christian woman to do when she wants a baby without submitting to a husband, but is “devout enough” (whatever that means in Current Year) to not go skanking or sperm banking? Adoption! Cut the man out ENTIRELY! God’s only objection to making bastards is having sex during the process!
Christian Singles Aren’t Waiting for Marriage to Become Parents
By Kara Bettis, 16 March 2021
Heather Creed grew up in suburban Indiana and attended Taylor University, expecting her life trajectory to be similar to that of many of her friends. “I always thought I would marry and have seven kids and be a stay-at-home, homeschool mom,” Creed said. “That’s clearly not what happened.”
Odd. That’s almost always what happens when a woman marries young and rides hubby until he walks funny.
Creed, 45, is now an attorney who settled in Columbus, Ohio, after stints in Waco, Texas, and New York City.
BWAHAHAHAA!!! “I wanted a big, conservative family, so I went to college and became a lawyer in NYC. I have no idea how my dream failed!” Maybe you don’t find Canada by traveling south, Tits.
Her family isn’t the traditional midwestern one of her childhood. She never married. But that didn’t stop her from adopting two boys and recently becoming licensed, for the second time, to foster children in her home.
“I don’t have to worry about the health of my marriage and myself and my husband and any biological children,” she said. “I can give so much more focus to the healing and restoration of the child.”
Creed, a white woman, feels she has stepped into the pain of broken families in new ways as she parents 13- and 5-year-old fatherless black boys. It’s part of the reason she moved to New York City from Texas.
She be rayciss!
Andy Jackson, 33, was single when he started fostering a decade ago while working as a special education teacher in Pell City, Alabama. He adopted his first child when he was 23 and went on to adopt two more children, one with special needs.
He gave up on both marriage and fertility at age 23? Especially for teachers for which a degree is often a prerequisite, that’s their first year out of college. Something stinks.
Now married, he and his wife have eight children—including a toddler they are in the process of adopting together, three biological children from his wife’s previous marriage, and one she adopted with her deceased husband. Collectively, they estimate, they have fostered more than 50 children through foster and respite care.
He should have waited until marriage before fostering.
Angelle Jones, 64, was one of the first in her community to foster or adopt when she took in a five-year-old girl in Cincinnati in 1978. She was 21 then and hadn’t met another single African American adoptive parent like her—or even a black couple who had adopted from an agency. (Kinship adoption was more common, she said.) More recently, she’s had multiple conversations with single women around her who are considering adoption.
I suspect welfare fraud by an infertile skank. She grew up watching the ghetto mamas work the system and as soon as she legally could (age 21), she grabbed a meal ticket for herself and followed their parasitic examples.
[Jones] was raised without the picture-perfect nuclear family, and she didn’t see that as a barrier to her own desire to provide a home for children.
“I grew up with a single mom. She made it look easy. I realize in my community and context there were more single parents than married. It was a norm for me,” said Jones, who never married and who adopted her daughter in 1984 after two years of fostering. Sixteen years later, she also raised her granddaughter. “For years I didn’t meet any single African American women who adopted.”
Yep. Welfare fraud and multigenerational bastardy.
By the way, this article isn’t just a one-off story from Christianity Today. It’s the cover article for their current-issue magazine. Neither the author nor the editors and proofreaders were willing & able to read between the lines.
The modern Church has a seething pathological hatred of fatherhood disguised as female empowerment.
While adoption and orphan care have long been core causes for evangelicals, they have largely had the nuclear family at their center. In his 2010 case for “Why Every Christian Is Called to Support Adoption,” Russell Moore wrote in CT that “the fatherhood of God is better understood in a culture where children know what it means to say ‘Daddy’ and ‘Mommy.’”
When he’s right, he’s right. God intended children to have BOTH a mother AND a father. Adopting children as a single parent is child abuse… guaranteeing them a broken, empty home. Nobody doing this cares about the kid.
Creed, Jackson, and Jones represent a small but significant number of Christian women and men pursuing foster care and adoption while single. Like other single parents, these single parents by choice often face immense financial and lifestyle challenges.
QED. It would be parent abuse, too, except Parent volunteered.
But in evangelical churches, such parents also have to swim against the current of long-held norms around family.
God’s design for humanity has been reduced to a “long-held norm”?
As many Christians remain single longer and later, however, advocates say that singles who foster and adopt are finding increased acceptance and support among their fellow conservative Christians.
NO. THEY. ARE. NOT. They are not conservatives unless they conserve something! The concept of the nuclear family would be a great start.
Singles—mostly women—accounted for nearly 30 percent of all public adoptions in 2019, taking in more than 19,000 children.
Nearly all women, I should say, and specifically the Original Sin-sick wimminz who would rather torture somebody else’s child than submit to a man. I went looking for statistics on male vs female and only found LGBT shills. It says much about human nature that the two groups most interested in adopting are devout Christians and pedophiles. It says much about our government that the latter is preferred.
The Department of Health and Human Services doesn’t track adoptive parents by religion and doesn’t distinguish between never-married and divorced individuals, but limited data from the National Survey of Family Growth shows that unmarried evangelical and nonevangelical women express similar levels of interest in adopting.
As atheists love to point out, the gulf in behavior between believers and unbelievers is nonexistent. That’s because both groups of women are encouraged and subsidized to rebel against men. I remain furiously mystified that the entire Christian Church across the world chokes on just the first three chapters of Scripture!
Jedd Medefind, president of the advocacy and support group Christian Alliance for Orphans (CAFO), said he has seen singles involved in foster care and adoption throughout his career, but he’s noticed it a lot more in the past five to seven years, as foster care and adoption in general have surged in the church.
“It’s been a steady increase in both interest and engagement by singles in every facet of working with vulnerable children—foster care, adoption, mentoring,” Medefind said. “There is a desire to live out God’s call in practical ways, for their faith to not just be theoretical but to serve in hands-on ways.”
She doesn’t want to be feminine.
She doesn’t want to submit to a man as God intended.
She doesn’t want to be denied her “right” to have a baby just because her career allows no time for motherhood.
She wants the taxpayer to backfill every anti-natalist decision she ever made in life.
And the organized Church prides itself on going out of its way to enable those attitudes. “Our faith is not merely theoretical! We’re with HER!”
And the Father Of All does a divine facepalm.
Atlanta’s North Point Community Church is one place where that desire is evident. More than 100 families are involved in its Fostering Together ministry, which supports foster and adoptive families across the multisite church’s seven locations. At the Buckhead campus alone, nearly half of the 13 families with foster children are parented by single adults.
Alison Feyereisen, who helps lead the ministry, hasn’t seen any recent surge in singles taking in children, but she has noticed that “the church seems to be more welcoming and supporting it better than [in] years before.” Fostering Together aims to bolster that support—for singles and couples—by providing both adults and children with what Feyereisen calls “wraparound care” that is holistic and practical and by engaging in churchwide activism and prayer.
“Psalm 68 says that God puts the lonely in families. And that’s not primarily just talking about a biological nuclear family; it’s talking about the people of God,” said pastor and The Gospel Coalition editor Sam Allberry in a TGC video in early 2019. “A single person may be thinking, ‘I’m just a mum or just a dad and I can’t do the role of both parents,’ but actually, with the support of a wider church family, that child should be growing up in a very, very healthy family context. I think it’s a great thing for singles to adopt.”
Burn in Eternal Hell, Sam Allberry, for your encouragement of bastardy and female rebellion against men. At least we have a face for the heretics pushing these anti-family teachings.
Helping singles who are already caring for vulnerable children seems like a natural role for churches. But how much they should encourage singles to pursue foster care—and especially adoption—is far less clear.
Historically, married couples have been upheld as the ideal family model, including for foster care and adoption. The Child Welfare League of America standardized its commitment in 1958, stating that adoptive families should include both a mother and a father. Efforts to recruit single adults to adopt began in the 1960s, according to the University of Oregon’s Adoption History Project, when the Los Angeles Bureau of Adoptions tapped single African Americans to help place black children.
The church, in particular, has had a “high view of the nuclear family and a hesitancy about intentionally forming families that are something other than a traditional, two-parent home,” according to Jonathan Reid, the founder of Fostering Hope, a New England–based group that supports local churches in foster care and adoption.
Steve Roach, the executive director of Catholic Charities of Springfield, Illinois, told The Heritage Foundation in 2018 that “our preference for non-relative foster placements was with married couples to give children the opportunity for a mother and a father figure in their lives. We would work with single parents as long as they were not cohabitating with another adult.”
While most states allow for adoption by an unmarried person, in Arizona and Utah, married couples are explicitly preferred over single-parent households. Individual agencies have their own preferences, which often stem from religious objections to cohabiting or same-sex parenting and have been challenged in court. Policies at some faith-based agencies that prohibit placement with LGBT couples, for instance, are at the center of a case currently before the Supreme Court.
I hope the D.C. StateEmpire gives us permission to obey God, else I’ll have to become a Musselman. Child adoption by Sodomites is a hill that the Church absolutely should die on! And while we’re at it, child adoption by NYC lawyers and ghetto rats for the exact same reason.
Many studies have shown detrimental effects on children who grow up in single-parent households instead of two-parent households. And children who are adopted or fostered are more likely to struggle socially, emotionally, and academically, said sociologist and National Marriage Project director W. Bradford Wilcox.
“Single parents and single mothers may struggle with the challenges of raising a kid in foster care without having a second parent to support them and support the child,” he said.
I note with great displeasure that Wilcox did NOT say “don’t do it”.
In some situations, that could be dangerous, he said, putting the parent, the child, or both at risk. Foster children especially are already in a difficult situation, and Wilcox believes that in most cases, agencies should prioritize placements with married, two-parent households for the sake of stability and support for the children.
But for singles like Clarise Cannings, running up against the traditional agency preference for married parents can feel like a personal rejection. The 42-year-old originally applied to a private Christian agency when she was pursuing foster care in Bowie, Maryland.
“They were looking for a certain type of person to be an adoptive parent,” she said. When the agency found out that she was single and worked full-time (even though she worked from home and her company was supportive of foster care), Cannings said they told her they “have moms we use.”
“It hurt a lot,” she said. “Maybe they didn’t think I was motherly enough.”
You were not motherly enough, Clarise. You had no use or place in your life for a child except as a feminist merit badge. Credit to that agency, they recognized you for who you are: not motherhood material. Just like all the men in your life did.
That agency referred Cannings to a public agency…
Sigh. I take back that credit.
…and she has since fostered eight different children from newborn to 19 years old over the past two years. The only time she declined a placement was when the agency asked if she could take both a one-year-old and a three-year-old. Despite her desire, she felt that wasn’t wise as a single person.
“I had a yearning to be a mother. I recognized that there were children who need a mother. The Lord allowed me to have these rooms, this space, and allowed me to have room in my heart,” she said.
Inquiring minds want to know, did she also hire a nanny to be the mother her full-time job didn’t allow her to be, or did she get passed over for promotion because of “the glass ceiling” of not prioritizing her work over family?
Advocates like Reid think evangelical attitudes toward single parenting by choice are shifting. One reason could be reduced stigma toward single parenting generally, given the prevalence of divorce within the church and the desire among Christians to support mothers who otherwise might choose an abortion, said R. Marie Griffith, a professor of humanities at Washington University in St. Louis who has studied trends among evangelical women.
Another reason could be… THE INCREASING NUMBER OF FEMALE LEADERS IN THE CHURCH.
Marriage rates, too, are declining inside and outside the church…
Again, atheists think that means we don’t believe what we preach. They’re right and the Church should be ashamed of itself.
…leaving more single women childless.
Marriage rates fall, women most affected!
Reid, who said his own views on the issue have evolved, noted that singles have other entry points beyond fostering and adoption: There is respite care (a trained position to aid foster families), or working with emergency placements that are as temporary as a day or a weekend.
“Is it ideal for a kid to be in foster care with two parents? Yes, of course,” Reid said. But there are so many kids and the need is so urgent that there is “absolutely a place” for singles to provide direct care for at-risk children.
That is a fatal trap for Christians: “the needs of the moment outweigh the long-held norms mandated by God” argument.
For a child coming from an unstable background, living with just one stable parent can be a huge improvement.
That *IS* the unstable background!
And in some cases, singleness can be an advantage: Children with a history of sexual or physical abuse, refugee children, or teen boys with a violent history toward men (for instance, protecting their mother from her batterer) might benefit from placement with a single woman, said Cheri Williams, who oversees Bethany Christian Services’ domestic programs.
This isn’t funny. This is child abuse on steroids with a Jesus tattoo.
“There’s the myth of the perfect family or stay-at-home mom,” Williams said. “There is no perfect family, but there can be a ‘just right fit.’ You’re not meeting family’s needs; you’re meeting the kid’s needs.”
Forrr the chilllldreeeen! As decreed by Mommy.
Bethany estimates that about 20 percent of its foster parents are unmarried. The agency saw a 3 percent increase in single foster parents from 2019 to 2020, according to a spokesperson. There are more than 400,000 children in foster care nationwide, with 120,000 of them eligible for adoption right now.
In March, Bethany announced it would allow LGBT couples to foster and adopt nationwide, in a move to be inclusive toward different arrangements of parents (it was already allowing such foster placements in some states).
Williams’s team watches for certain red flags…
Not including the foster parent being sexually attracted to teenage boys while cross-dressing as a made-up gender?
…when they consider placements with single people. They try to weed out those who may be motivated by the financial “benefits” of foster care (which is a myth, Williams added) or by overly strong maternal instincts, which she calls the “motherhood motivation.”
It’s a myth that welfare fraud can be a motive? Here, have a brochure… quoting from page six:
A Note About Finances and Adoption Costs
One common myth about adoption is that only wealthy parents can adopt and successfully raise healthy, happy
children. First and foremost, children need loving families. But the costs associated with adoptions may be
particularly relevant to single parents, who typically rely on one income.
Adoption costs can vary widely depending on the type of adoption you choose. In general, if you adopt from
foster care, adoption costs will be low or even free. If you choose private domestic or intercountry adoption,
costs, such as agency or adoption services provider fees, will be considerably more expensive.
Government-sanctioned adoption is shamelessly subsidized.
Each State’s adoption assistance policy varies, so you should review what subsidies and other supports your State offers. For State-by-State information on adoption assistance, visit the Information Gateway webpage, Adoption Assistance by State (https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/adoption/adopt-assistance/).
To help further offset adoption costs, Federal or State tax credits, loans, grants, or employer-provided adoption
benefits may also be available to you.
If you need help reading through those lines then, well, you must not have noticed that fifth-generation ghetto queens are a normal sight in the projects.
Single parenting by choice is a calling. It’s not for people who simply want to “experience having kids,” said Robin Gerardi, head of WeFoster, a ministry of First Baptist Church Woodstock in Georgia. WeFoster provides extra support for single foster moms—who make up 12 of the 60 foster families at the church—including laundry services, handyman volunteers, and meal trains when a family receives a placement.
“We’ve proven that single moms are some of our best foster moms. They get it, they focus on the kids,” Gerardi said.
You lie, Gerardi. You defame the very concept of fatherhood, in the name of Father God no less, and call it “some of our best”. You have no use for Christ except to the extent He enables you to do what you would be doing regardless.
If your beliefs don’t change your behavior then you don’t have any beliefs. Did God intend children to be raised by mother AND father or not? If so then why do you not act like it? Because children do better with a single mother who puts them in child care because she has no time to raise them, than they would being put in child care?
The stink of Feminist Merit Badge is everywhere on this. Women want children. Women don’t want to serve a husband. How fortunate that “some of our best foster families are single mothers”!!!
Heather Creed agrees. “I don’t have to worry about the health of my marriage and myself and my husband and any biological children,” she said. “I can give so much more focus to the healing and restoration of the child.”
Cristen Simcox, 31, also believes that singles don’t have to adopt. There’s a waiting list for adoption, she said, but not for foster care and “in the gap” care.
Simcox felt led to foster while a pediatric emergency room nurse in Temple, Texas, after seeing the awful circumstances her young patients faced. She and a friend—also a single Christian and an ER nurse—had wanted to house children in need but felt their unpredictable schedules would make it too difficult.
“Logistically, neither of us could do it alone, but maybe we could together,” she said. So, they moved in together. Though their parenting styles were different, Simcox said, they were able to support each other and lean on the wraparound care of their community.
“I really wanted to show [the kids] the love that God has for them for whatever period I had with them in my home.” Simcox ultimately adopted her first two placements before meeting her future husband, Stephen. They met on a dating app, and she wasn’t able to hide the fact that she was a single mom.
“I had baby clothes in a bag on our first date,” Simcox said. “So, I told him right away. He was surprised but was attracted to my heart for the Lord.”
The image of Original Sin is complete. Barbie wanted babies without the effort of caring for a husband, and “Stephen the Martyr” stepped up to make her feral dream a reality.
He didn’t even get screwed. That’s sad, man.
With widespread evangelical enthusiasm for adoption and foster care, it can be easy to forget those institutions only exist because of widespread brokenness.
In some ways, singles are catching the sharpest pieces when families and communities break.
In other ways, if the church hated masculine men any more then it would celebrate Father’s Day by literally crucifying some fathers.
I had some family relations living in a distant state. The parents had three daughters. The first daughter got pregnant out of wedlock in high school. The parents were very upset but then they did everything they could to help Snowflake keep the baby and not suffer the typical consequences of single motherhood because they loved her.
The other two daughters watched single motherhood become the fast track to money and empowerment and special attention, and both got their asses knocked up in high school, too.
If my relatives had truly loved their daughters, they would have ruined their eldest’s life in order to teach the correct lessons to their other daughters. They would have made her suffer because what she did was evil.
Single motherhood is a plague of wickedness upon our land. It doesn’t matter if a woman gets there by paperwork or turkey baster. What does matter is that she hated the very concept of serving a husband.
She hated Christ, the husband of loyal humanity.