If I had a dollar for every middle school principal in America that recognized hypergamy in girls, opposed that hypergamy AND stuck to his guns when REEE’d at, then I would have… one dollar. With Utah’s Rich Middle School Principal Kip Motta’s name on it. Even his name is badass!
Utah School Policy Bans Girls From Rejecting Boys’ Offer To Dance
28 February 2020
An 11-year-old girl who was asked to dance by a boy she didn’t like at her middle school’s Valentine’s Day ball turned him down – only to be told by the principal that she could not say no to him.
Azlyn Hobson, a student at the Rich Middle School in Laketown, Utah, came home angry after the principal, Kip Motta, told her that saying no was against the rules.
According to her mother, Azlyn was so excited for the dance that she put on a red-and-pink floral sundress over a long-sleeve T-shirt and leggings.
She also carefully arranged her hair because she was anticipating dancing with a boy she liked.
‘She was so excited in the morning when she left,’ Alicia Hobson told The Washington Post.
Alicia Hobson of Rich County, Utah, was outraged after her 11-year-old daughter, Azlyn, was told by her middle school principal that she could not reject a boy’s invitation to dance at a Valentine’s Day event.
Yes Means Yes! Hahahaaaaa!
From Mommy Hobson’s Facebook, now deleted:
19 February 2020 at 2:34PM
NO MEANS NO.
A kid at school that makes my daughter uncomfortable asked her to dance at the school dance on Valentine’s Day. She tried to say no thank you, and the principal overheard and intervened and told her she’s not allowed to say no and that she has to dance with him.
For the record, one single dance.
This boy has been quoted as publicly saying something very disturbing of a sexual nature. It doesn’t matter if it’s true or not. It doesn’t matter if rumors are terrible and should be dismissed. That’s irrelevant. The point is that this kid makes my daughter feel uncomfortable. She should not have to stand close to him with his hands on her if she doesn’t want to. She has the right to say no to anyone for any reason or no reason. Her body is her body and if she doesn’t want to dance with someone, that’s her prerogative.
I understand that the spirit of the rule is give the kids the confidence to ask other kids to dance without the risk of rejection, but guess what? In life, you get rejected all the time. They need to get used to it and learn how to cope with their frustration. Girls HAVE to learn that they have the right to say no and that those around them have to respect that. I’m not going to quietly stand by while my daughter and all of her classmates are being wrapped up in rape culture. No way.
I’ve told her over and over, since her school started having dances that she has the right to say no, and if she gets in trouble for it, I’ll fight like hell for her. Well, here we go.
Her complaint was rejected by not-Amenable Authority. Guess what, Alicia, you hypergamous hamster-bitch? In life, you get rejected all the time. You need to get used to it and learn how to cope with your frustrations.
I have reached out to the principal. He told me that he is not changing the policy. He said my opinion is to either accept this policy, or keep my daughter home from school when they have a dance.
Translation: “Either she learns to tolerate the unsexy boys or she doesn’t get to be around the sexy boys.” I salute you, Principal Kip!
I emailed the superintendent and told him the response I got from the principal and asked him if he had anything to add to that, but he has not responded. He has been copied on all emails since this incident happened and is well aware of the situation, but has not said a word so far.
The coward. All he needs to say is the magic three words: “What Motta said.”
My next step will be to contact the Utah Board of Education. I appreciate the support I’ve gotten from everyone. I’m so angry right now for all the kids in that school. Why can’t they just have a fun school dance and not be forced to dance with kids they don’t want to dance with? What if my daughter doesn’t feel safe with the boy who asks her?
Considering that the principal himself was personally supervising your daughter, she had no reason… no right… to not feel safe.
This policy makes a lot of kids uncomfortable.
Not the boys, I’m sure.
The principal stated to me multiple times that my family is not the first to complain and that many kids have felt uncomfortable with it, but they just checked their kids out of school or submitted to the policy.
I’ll guess the latter much more than the former, since the girls who don’t like ANY of the boys wouldn’t have gone to the dance in the first place.
That’s unacceptable. Do better Rich Middle School.
You’re awesome, Principal Motta. They should have cloned you instead of Jango Fett and won a galactic war that was worth fighting. The war of the sexes!
End Facebook rant.
Kip Motta, the school principal, defended the policy, saying it was used so that kids would not feel left out.
Looky, looky, ugly harpies! Motta can play the pronoun game, too.
Motta told the Salt Lake Tribune that students who have concerns about dancing with certain classmates should raise the issue with him beforehand so that he could intervene.
‘We want to protect every child’s right to be safe and comfortable at school,’ Motta said.
‘We believe in that 100 per cent.
‘We also believe that all children should be included in activities.
‘The reason for the policy as we have had it (in the) past is to make sure no kids feel like they get left out.’
The principal denied that students were forced to dance with partners they didn’t want.
‘No one was forced to do anything,’ he told Fox 13 TV.
‘All they had to do was communicate with me. That’s what we tell the kids all the time.’
Motta told the Tribune that he and the school superintendent were reviewing the policy this week.
He said that the school hosts three dances a year as part of the physical education curriculum.
‘We teach them how to ask someone to dance, we teach them how to accept dancing, we ask all students to ask someone and we change it up sometimes it’s girls choice, boys choice, kids wearing red tennis shoes, it doesn’t matter, we mix it all up,’ he said.
Motta acknowledged that students are asked to agree to dance with whoever asks them to.
‘They ask each other to dance and we ask them to say “yes” and the reason behind this policy or philosophy is to ensure that no kid is, no children at all are feel like they are left out,’ he said.
Did I just hear a scream of pain from “No Child Left Behind”? Shiv, shiv!
In 2018, the Weber School District in Utah ordered its school to do away with the policy requiring students to accept dance partners after a parent complained that her daughter was told she could not decline a boy’s invitation.
Female hatred for unsexy men is deep and instinctive. As is the pressure men feel to aid and abet that hatred even to their own destruction. Original sin in microcosm.
Not the easiest face to read thanks to premature hair loss and no prominent features. Lots of flat lines and right angles indicates a very logical, orderly personality. Women like the cleft chin so he’s probably experienced with female antics, not just meaning marriage, and having that strong jaw/chin suggests he did well at handling them.
To judge by the way his neck flesh fills out that collar, he’s an athlete gone to seed. I predict his career was professional athlete->phys. ed. teacher->school admin.
I was lucky enough to have a father who coached basketball, and after his coaching years at Weber State in Ogden, we moved to Chicago where Dad and the family started a 25-year N.B.A. career. We lived in the suburbs of Chicago for eight years before we moved to the Washington D.C. area. I finished high school in Maryland in 1977 and started my own life.
I pursue several personal hobbies and interests now I am grown and in the midst of my career and life. The one interest that seems to drive all I do is learning new things. I am a firm believer learning never stops and is only limited by your interests, imagination, and motivation. I learned how to fly airplanes in 1994, and I am now a commercial/instrument rated pilot who enjoys flying for the fun and the love of it.
Other interests I have include fishing, camping, officiating high school basketball, and most other outdoor activities. I also like to watch and attend NASCAR races, N.F.L. football, tennis, and the Yankees. Yes I am a Yankees fan from about birth, so just deal with it!! I enjoy staying fit so I participate in cardio activities such as running, stationary bike, elliptical, and the stair stepper.
1983-84 Teacher (p.e./health) and coach (basketball and cross country) Fairlawn High School
1984-87 Teacher (developmental math, technical math and college algebra); assistant basketball coach Trinity Valley Junior College
1987-90 Assistant coach (basketball) Washington State University
1990-92 Assistant coach and scout Seattle SuperSonics
1992-94 Assistant coach and scout Portland Trailblazers
1994-96 Assistant coach and scout Dallas Mavericks
1996-97 Assistant coach and scout Denver Nuggets
1997-2000 Teacher (mathematics, computer, web page, CCW) Rich Middle School
1998-2000 Assistant principal and teacher (mathematics, web page) Rich Middle School
2000-Present Principal, teacher (mathematics, web page), and coach Rich Middle School and North Rich Elementary
I missed on his being a pro athlete but as you can see, not by much. Strong confirmation of “logical, orderly” personality.