They should call themselves the BBD, British Broadcasters in Denial.
Why promoted women are more likely to divorce
By Maddy Savage, 22 January 2020
Having a successful and enjoyable career alongside a fulfilling romantic relationship is a life goal for many of us. But even in the most gender-equal countries, finding a partnership that lasts is trickier for high-flying women than men.
Problem: gender equality isn’t working. Solution: more gender equality. Because brute force is male privilege.
In Sweden, which ranks first in the EU’s gender equality index thanks to factors like generous parental leave, subsidised daycare and flexible working arrangements, economists recently studied how promotions to top jobs affected the probability of divorce for each gender. The result: women were much more likely to pay a higher personal price for their career success.
Headline: “Women are more pampered than ever in human history. Women hardest hit!”
“Promotion to a top job in politics increases the divorce rate of women but not for men, and women who become CEOs divorce faster than men who become CEOs,” summarises Johanna Rickne, a professor at Stockholm University and co-author of the research, which was published earlier this month in American Economic Journal.
The paper, which looked at the lives of heterosexual men and women working for private companies with 100 or more employees, found that married women were twice as likely to be divorced three years after their promotion to CEO level compared to their male counterparts. In the public sector, using three decades’ worth of records, women mayors and parliamentarians promoted after an election doubled their chances of splitting from their partners; 75% were still married eight years after the vote compared with 85% of those who didn’t get promoted, while there was no evidence of a similar effect for men. Female medical doctors, police officers and priests who progressed in their careers also followed the trend.
Those are all jobs in which women wield authority over men. Hmm.
The authors noted that while the majority of participants in the study had children, most had left home by the time their parents divorced, so the marriage stressors in the run-up to these separations were not connected to more generalised pressures of having small children.
Could it be… maybe… that women don’t feel love for the men they rule over?
You just know they’ll find a way to blame men for this. Never mind that they’re now the frigging CEO.
Rickne argues that although Sweden has provided the legislation and societal structures to create “the expectation that you shouldn’t need to choose between family and career”, the research reveals that what happens to families when women progress up the career ladder is often a different story.
Many couples experience “stress and friction” when there are changes in the division of their economic and social roles, for example due to the impact on the amount of leisure time they can spend together or how they divide up household tasks. But this, the research team argues, is often amplified when it is the woman who is promoted, because it creates more of a mismatch of expectations.
Just get a maid, Prime Minister Barbie! Why are you STILL arguing over household chores?
While Rickne’s research did not measure which party initiated divorce in each case, one theory is that the husbands of top managers who got promoted found the situation harder to deal with than wives who were married to high-performing men. She points out that the marriage market has not kept up with the labour market when it comes to gender equality, since it is “still seen as quite unusual for men to be the main supportive spouse in someone else’s career”.
Yep, it’s still the husband’s fault that “the unnamed party” blew up the marriage.
“I think this norm changing is pretty far off,” she adds. Her team’s research, she argues, might therefore act as a lesson about what lies ahead for other countries that are moving towards more egalitarian economies.
That’s the problem with marriage, isn’t it? If both parties are equal then nobody’s in charge. You can’t have a marriage without one spouse being the boss of the other… and per Rickne’s research, if the woman is boss then the marriage probably won’t last anyway.
That leaves only the solution that’s worked for thousands of years: getting rid of men entirely???
The benefits of divorce
Divorce isn’t always a bad thing. Molly Malm, a lawyer for Swedish law firm Lexly, points out that Sweden’s overall high divorce rate compared to the rest of the EU is linked to its gender equality goals. The high level of female participation in the workforce and a norm of shared custody of children following a split makes it easier for divorcees of all economic backgrounds to leave partnerships that aren’t working.
“Getting a divorce doesn’t always need to be the end of the world,” says Malm, who points out that is has become normalised in Scandinavia to get married multiple times or have several long-term partners across a lifetime. “Sweden is not very religious… You get married because it’s romantic and joyful, it goes hand in hand with a big celebration. If it doesn’t work out, you know that you can file for divorce.”
…One constructive consequence of high divorce rates, [Rickne] argues, is that it has become much easier for both men and women in Sweden to hold senior roles in business and politics without a partner.
“In other places… if you are on the campaign trail and you want to appeal to voters, you almost have to have a spouse by your side. The same thing might happen for CEOs – that their spouse becomes a necessary asset in their world of work, but in Sweden that’s not really the case,” says Rickne.
No more need to marry a creep and let him touch your body! You can go straight into the halls of power with no need to deceive the stubbornly traditional!
Scarily, that actually IS progress.
“Society has accepted divorce more, and it might be a positive thing,” she argues. “If women get into unequal relationships with a spouse that will not support their career, divorce lets them continue their careers alone and possibly look for a new partner… It’s not necessarily ideal to stay with the same person your whole life.”
“Dear John, I don’t need you anymore. You’re divorced. Signed, the woman who lied to you at the wedding altar. Don’t be selfish, now… let me have the kids.”
Couples who were closer in age and took a more egalitarian approach to childcare were less likely to divorce following a wife’s promotion. The paper calls for more research to explore the conditions that might encourage “women at the top of the ability distribution to expand their choice set of partners to ‘marry down’ and for men to do the opposite”.
Partial success already; there’s lots of men who are eager to wife up a higher-status, breadwinning woman. We call them male feminists and one should worry less about their divorce rate than their sexual perversion rate.
Charlotte Sundåker, 38, was promoted to interim CEO of a global education company in Stockholm two years after having her first child with her long-term partner Christian Hagman, who is 31. She believes his younger age played a positive role in their relationship surviving “lots of friction” after she got the job; there was “less pressure for him to be more successful” since he was in a different phase of his career.
“Global education company.” Fascinating how many of these feral women get employed to advance globalism.
Sundåker describes him as being “of another generation that tries to challenge the old ways of being a man”, which made him more supportive of her tough workload. But both partners argue that the core reason they remained together was frequent and honest conversations about the challenges they were facing.
“When she actually started, she was obviously consumed by it. That is the nature of being a CEO,” says Hagman. “I was a bit sad about not connecting with her on a daily basis from a relationship standpoint… But she saw me and she listened to me, and I did the same.”
Snip snip, eunuch.
The couple says that having a long-term perspective was also essential, with an understanding that Hagman would want to have his own more career-focused period in the future. He has since started his own design consultancy, while Sundåker now runs her own business and heads up Ownershift, a Swedish think tank designed to empower more women to do the same.
Even her disposable emotional tampon of a
husband “life partner” at least makes his living by making stuff. Barbie’s career is teaching children and female empowerment. Maybe one day, she’ll be empowered enough to break the stereotype of women being unable to code.
I can’t confirm that this is the correct Hagman but the age is right and Linkedin says he’s a product design guy… consistent with this article’s description of him.
Charlotte was easier to find. Manjaw, prematurely baggy eyelids, flat chest, all standard feminist. At least this one hasn’t cut her hair yet. Interesting that her eyelids are different types; not just a case of guardedness. She’s hooded (defensive) about her personal life while social (upper eyelid showing) but possibly deceptive (flat lower eyelid) about her professional life.
Divorced CEO Charlotte Ljung believes that increased awareness of the common challenges faced by couples after women are promoted into more senior jobs could also improve the chances of relationship survival, even for those who start off in more gender-traditional roles.
Barbie, if you actually raised your awareness of dominant female divorce rate issues then you’d realize that those gender-traditional marriages are the successful marriages. Those wives raise their own kids and gossip over the back fence, while you raise other womens’ kids and gossip about status in male-taxpayer-funded, Socialist-government-operated think tanks.
The only difference between traditional wifely behavior and Current Year wifely behavior is rebellion against male authority.