This post was some time in coming, as personnel issues in the workplace are something to think twice about discussing on a public forum. However, I could certainly use advice.
I’ve had a female subordinate for several years. One that is willing to get dirty and do math, therefore the higher-ups are glad to have her on the payroll. I’ve worked closely with her on and off as work requires. Previously, she’s been professional and cooperative, if short on endurance in the field.
Over the last eight months, her attitude has disintegrated into what appears to be a personal vendetta against me. Endless criticism, endless argumentation, complaints that come out of nowhere, which broke into outright insubordination just before the Christmas break. Unacceptable, intolerable conduct.
The simple way to handle this would be reassigning her outside my supervisory control but I’ve already explored that option.
I’m not worried about getting #MeToo-ed. I’m well-defended and one defense I’ve activated is a paper trail in preparation for her termination if her insubordination continues. I have very limited tolerance for drama in the workplace; however, the powers that be don’t want to lose a STEM Girl so the situation is becoming political.
There are several potential factors:
- Her age is late 30s and her beauty has begun an obvious decline. Math aptitude notwithstanding, she’s an EPL girl with N>10, no interest in marriage and a growing collection of rescue pets.
- She lived with her father her entire life until several months before her behavior problems started. Office gossip didn’t give an exact date but said she wanted to “live more independent”.
- She occasionally cries at her desk and otherwise indicates via body language and habits that she has serious personal-life issues. I don’t know what and can’t safely find out.
My gut reading is that she’s targeting me because I’m the only male authority figure remaining in her life, and she’s been goading me in hopes that I’ll… God only knows… that I’ll be her surrogate Daddy or emotional tampon or something. What I’ve actually done thus far is patient endurance for the personal-life issue to pass, with a couple direct discussions to try and clear the air. With men, that works if they’re at all interested in continued employment. Not her.
So, my Red-Pill readers, what am I missing? Are there any solutions to be pursued other than getting her terminated for cause? (I don’t have authority to terminate her directly.) One thought I’ve had is contacting her father on the quiet but that could explode badly. Part of my sexual harassment shielding is the fact I’ve never shown the slightest personal interest in her.
Dear God, life is not worth living when it’s shared with a nag. I need a plan for the New Year.