My readers are aware of Vox Day’s iconic Alpha-Omega sociosexual hierarchy. Solitary Wolf has an interesting post up about the traits of the Sigma ranking:
I noticed he didn’t mention maintaining harems or being popular. Sigma is a variant of Alpha, after all, not a “successful not-Alpha”. A very common mistake.
The thing to know about Alphas, they not only enjoy high status but are obsessed with attaining & keeping it. Being Alpha doesn’t happen in a vacuum; most Alphas are constantly playing social games. It’s the same reason nearly all superwealthy men are FIRE experts–finance, insurance & real estate–because the reliable way to get superwealth is to be super-obsessed about building wealth.
The Sigma is a Dark Triad Alpha. This combination attracts women without the Sigma having to make deliberate effort. That’s the key.
Sigma is the sociosexual type that attains top sexual status without putting in the usual effort, comparable to a hillbilly who found oil on his farm. The hillbilly billionaire is not going to fit into the conventional rich-man contexts or stereotypes; he’s an outsider with the same standing as an insider. Trying to act Sigma is like trying to find free money under your bed. Either it’s there or it isn’t.
I once read an article by a psychiatrist complaining about requests from guys asking how to acquire sociopathy. That’s because chicks love sociopaths and shit test healthy men. Being Alpha without putting in the normal effort is attractive to men who’ve already tried the Alpha path and failed. Sociopathy is attractive also because healthy men are hurt by social isolation. Men don’t like being vulnerable so for those of us who leave society because we were forced to, the idea of changing our personality to no longer be capable of vulnerability interests us.
There’s a converse to this. It’s possible to be an “Omega who didn’t earn it”. To be somebody who should be attractive to women but isn’t. Perhaps this should be the true definition of Incel. The sexual marketplace is a marketplace, after all, and market disruptions mean not everyone gets exactly their value in trade.
It’s okay to try achieving Alpha. It’s not okay to try achieving Sigma because it isn’t a state that can be achieved. Trying to copy Sigma traits risks embracing narcissism or manipulative coldness.
It is not always a compliment when women find you exciting.